Free Yourself, Cut the Cord

We're all connected. Really. But not in the same way with everyone. To me, a connection looks like a cord made of light between two people. You don't need to do anything intentionally. It just happens. You go buy your baguette to the bakery, you talk to the seller, a cord is being created between the two of you. When the conversation is over, you leave, the cord is cut. The cord enables another level of communication between the two energies. You know exactly what it is. Remember when you meet someone and instantly, you have this feeling that you can't trust him/her? That's it. 

Sometimes, it's more complicated. The cord remains fully active way after you met someone and it can bring lots of discomforts, especially if you’re an empath. Your energy drains away and you feel literarily exhausted. You feel other people's feelings and can go from a joyful mood to a depressive state in just a moment. There’s no apparent reason, you don’t receive any notification on your phone to let you know. Let me give you three examples to clarify the idea.

The crowd connection

You’re going to a concert, a party, you use public transportation… Lots of different energies may interact. Without even noticing, you connect with people who have a lower level of energy. They immediately feel better with you and plugs-in to your energy to recharge the batteries. How convenient! It can last for a few hours or even a day or two, at least enough time to drain your energy away.

The heart connection

You want to help someone you love who’s in pain. I remember a few years ago, a dear friend lost her mother who suffered from a mental illness for years. She took care of her with all her heart and was deeply affected. We had a coffee together and I did my best to support her. It was hard to find comforting words of course so I listened to her telling the story of this wonderful person who gave her so much love. It wasn’t hard for me to put myself in her shoes and I gave her all my attention for a few hours. At that time, I started a profound transformation in my life. I was full of joy and excitement. After I left my friend to go to a meeting, it was the end of the morning, I suddenly felt tired to the point I wanted to sleep. I didn’t have the courage to take the subway to go to the other side of Paris so I took an Uber. I felt confused and it was hard for me to focus during the meeting. The three following days, no spark of joy in my heart, just infinite sadness, and a strange feeling that everything in my life had no more meaning. I didn’t want to see anyone, went to sleep early and slept 10 hours a night… I had no idea what was going on but I know it was going wrong. Fortunately, I had a discussion with an energy healer and talked to her about this situation. She immediately identified that the cord was still on and helped me cut it. My good mood came back right away but it took one more night to get back my energy level.

The karmic connection

Let’s explore another level of connection. I’m talking about soul mates here. Someone we share a deep bond with. It can be a loving parent, a best friend, a husband/wife but it can also be the boss who’s making your workplace a hell or this sister who always brings drama into your life. I know it’s hard to believe but let’s face it, meeting a soul mate is not always a love story for our incarnated souls. That’s specifically because we love each other that we create challenges for each other so we can progress. When we learned our lesson, it’s time to cut the cord. And it’s not that easy because this relationship started way before the present incarnation. We share karma, we committed to help each other evolve bringing this unconditional love or this painful relationship or both to our human experience. Behind the cord, there can be sadness, love, guilt, anger, whether it's conscious or unconscious… To be able to cut the cord, you first need to let go of the feeling connected (anger, guilt…), then to forgive the person and/or yourself, and finally, to feel the urgent need to get back your own power and free yourself. 

The result is a huge relief, immediately, as well as a new ability to move on in your life. It’s rather obvious when you cut the cord with someone who causes suffering but you might wonder how can it be a relief when you cut the cord with someone you actually love? 

Well, I often work on cutting cords when people are ready to go through a new step in their grief. In that case, cutting the cord is the opportunity to take the proper time to say goodbye to the person we love, a second time. Is it painful? Yes, it is. But it’s also very liberating because as you keep the love intact, you get rid of the excruciating pain. Only love remains. 

With a loving one who’s still alive, it can be complex. You usually have to deal with an unconscious guilt feeling. Cutting the cord can make you feel disloyal, especially when it’s with a parent. And it can take a while to be completely effective because guess what? Cutting the cord is about getting back your power and your parent, as much as he/she loves you, doesn’t like to lose power over you. The relationship needs adjustments and you might be a little patient to find a new balance. But then, it’s wonderful to be fully yourself and feel respected with those who are so close to your heart.